Money Management Tips For Couples

A couple budgetingHaving to manage personal finances is one of the stressful realities that makes up a part of normal daily living. As a single person managing his or her finances, he or she doesn’t have to be concerned with coordinating financial management efforts with anyone else. However, if the scenario involves a couple, such as a husband and wife, an entirely new dynamic is introduced. In theory, at least, there should be some sense of coordination between both members of the couple. What affects one member of the couple affects the other member of the couple, right?

If you and your partner are like most couples, chances are, you fight about money. Numerous studies have shown that money is the No. 1 reason why couples argue — and many of the recently divorced say those battles were the main reason why they untied the knot.

We’ll begin with the following quick points, as noted by Key, that address a number of financial mistakes that partners can make that create serious angst in their relationship:

1 - Merging The Finances

The Wrong Approach: United we stand, divided we bank (i.e. separate bank accounts).

The Right Approach: It's yours, mine and ours (i.e. share the bank account).

2 - Dealing With Debt

The Wrong Approach: Your debt will ruin us; you must find a way to pay it off.

The Right Approach: It's our debt: Let's decide how to pay it off together.

3 - Keeping Spending In Check

The Wrong Approach: I'm a saver and you're a spender. That's the problem.

The Right Approach: We both spend, but on different things. Let's budget.

4 - Investing Wisely

The Wrong Approach: You're a risk-taker, I'm risk-averse. Hands off our retirement savings.

The Right Approach: Let's think in time frames and take as much risk as our goals allow.

5 - Keeping Money Secrets

The Wrong Approach: What my spouse doesn't know will never hurt him/her.

The Right Approach: Big financial secrets can ruin a marriage.

6 - Emergency Planning

The Wrong Approach: We're fine. We don't need to worry about money.

The Right Approach: Anything could happen. Let's plan for emergencies.

Examples of Financial Fights All Couples Have

In a piece by CNBC on the topic, the following examples of conflicts provide more insight about problems to avoid:

1 - Risk Taker vs Risk Avoider

One of you is more comfortable with the ups and downs of the stock market. If your spouse is intent on taking more risk than you're comfortable with - by putting more money into stocks, or investing in start-ups or buying Bitcoin - agree on a small percentage of your money that can be used in that way (no more than 5 to 10 percent) and a similar amount that you can save or invest as you wish. Then stick to your plan with the rest.

2 - Lending or Giving Money to Family and Friends

Forget about loaning money to friends and family in the majority of cases. If you can't afford to do it as a gift, don't do it at all - it won't end well. If you've already done it and you want to preserve the relationship, tell the recipient you're forgiving the debt, but that you don't want to be asked for more in the future.

In conclusion, the above points make it clear that good communication and teamwork is the real key to conflict-free financial partnership in marriage. A health dose of humility, patience, and selflessness will go a long way too because, after all, no one is perfect.

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